Escorts and Detachment on the Job
Detachment and being a gay escort or escort of any kind is one of the basic requirements that seems to be a natural trait that professional escorts have in common. By detachment I mean to be able to separate commercial sex from making love and/or casual sex and the detachment that allows you to connect with someone on an intimate level and share in a moment or a long term relationship while still sustaining the professional dimension that allows you to have that connection or an intense sexual moment then get on with the day and be removed from any of the affection or emotions that others may find difficult to move on from so quick.
I started writing this after meeting with a very long term regular client who I met with since basically day one when I just started out escorting. I remember the time we met vividly because it was the first time I ever visited a gay sauna where we arranged to meet. The fact that back then I looked like I’d barely hit puberty to the point where no-one would have guessed I was a gay escort and instead probably would have thought I was an innocent virgin! As I walked in to the sauna with an older gentleman and had the strangest looks it was funny and terrifying and most definitely memorable.
The client will always stick in my head from that experience and it might have something to do with meeting him every month or so for a good few years! He taught me how to tie a tie (is that really how to write that) as in tie up my tie to my shirt like under the collar. I wasn’t a kid by the way, I was kicked out of school at 14 and didn’t follow any rules before then so wearing a tie was not something I was well versed in. I love that term well versed in, it’s so posh!
This client when we met a few months ago he told me he was dealing with cancer and regardless of that detachment trait, this is general compassion in this situation and it was horrible to hear. When we met recently he called me from the cab to say he could only stay for half an hour because he started to feel dizzy on his way to my home. At this point I’m explaining he doesn’t have to come if he’s not feeling well but he is determined and knowing I don’t do half hour meets, he asked if that was ok and of course for him, it was.
When he arrived I spent most of the time asking if he was ok and if he wanted some water or a sit down, after taking some pain killers he was eager to stay spank me, very lightly as usual and that was good to know at least he still wanted to get on with our normal activities.
I think the moral of this story is professional detachment is essential but sometimes you can’t help but get chocked up and be human. I’m pretty sure this particular client doesn’t read my blog anyway but this is dedication to one of my first ever clients who has a special meaning to me and I hope to continue seeing for as long as possible.
I was supposed to get deeper and talk about other things but it’s bloody depressing so I’m going to leave it as it is and maybe come back to it later.
Much Love xXx